Understanding sex addiction

Posted: June 3, 2015 in Ugandan things
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Sex addiction is a big problem today as it was in the past. According to Wikipedia, Sexual addiction, also known as sex addiction or sexual dependence, is compulsive participation or engagement in sexual activity. Masturbation, prostitution, watching pornography, illegal sexual acts like rape and adultery maybe signs that help is needed. Sex addiction renders a person unproductive and may destroy their future love life.
“A healthy sexual appetite can be controlled. If sex is unavailable, it is disappointing but not devastating,” says Tina B. Tessina, PhD, a psychotherapist and author of The Real Thirteenth Step: Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance and Independence Beyond the Twelve Step Programs. “With a sexual addiction, the addict feels desperate to have his or her sexual outlet, no matter the cost.”
Sex is a basic part of human nature, and healthy if done at the right time with the right people. It’s easy to pick up any addiction with the ever changing internet and media trends. Erotic or pornographic literature is readily available in all ways. Let’s face it, we are all tempted everyday but it’s about self control .No one gets a woman and makes them sleep with a man. The solution to sex addiction is self-control. There is a clear difference between love and lust. There is the Power in words such as ‘NO’. This means that decision has to be made by you to stop not anyone else. Scientists have linked Sex addiction to childhood history of sex violations and low self esteem. Some feel love comes from sleeping with others.
Stopping Sex addiction is not easy but it starts with Making up your mind .Destroy all sexual related literature and materials .Get another hobby to replace sex addiction. You can only replace a habit with another habit. Every time you feel like having sex, then jog or take a walk.
There is some controversy about whether people can become addicted to sexual behaviours, including watching porn. The first study to investigate brain activity in “sex addicts” uncovered remarkable similarities with people addicted to drugs. University of Cambridge researchers performed brain scans on 19 men watching pornographic videos. Same reward centres of the brain were activated as when addicts see their drug of choice. They were all obsessed with sexual thoughts and behaviour, but it is uncertain that they are “addicts” in the same way as a smoker is addicted to nicotine. The team of researchers used functional magnetic resonance imaging to observe the changes in brain activity caused by watching pornographic videos. They compared the brains of people with compulsive sexual behaviour and healthy people. These are all areas that become excited in addicts when they see their drug of choice.
Sex addiction can damage a relationship. There is a movie called ‘Addicted’ about a married woman of two children struggling with sex addiction. Having sex three times a day was not enough to her. She starts cheating with two other men to get satisfaction. You can also pray to your God to provide courage to overcome.
If you feel you need help, you can also start the journey of recovery by visiting a counselor.Look for local Sex Addicts Anonymous support groups in your neighbourhood. Visit https://saa-recovery.org/ for help.
Ivan N Baliboola
nbaliboola@gmail.com

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